The way off the merry-go-round of verbal self-abuse is to treat yourself like someone you love. How do you treat the people you love the most? Are you kind to them? Are you patient and forgiving? When you do things that make you feel proud – say to yourself: “You done good, kid.” And then reward yourself with a gift or take time to clebrate your success. But then, when you do something you’re not so proud of – be gentle and kind. Start to forgive yourself immediately by saying: “Next time I’ll do better because now I know better.”
In order to live consciously, we have to first slow down! Enjoying simple pleasures in life takes time. Here are some suggestions:
What difference does it make how much you get done, if what you’re doing isn’t what matters the most to you? Who cares what you accomplish, if everyone gets abused in the process, including you? Don’t busy your life with unsatisfying social engagements, obligatory commitments and mundane tasks. Stop victimizing yourself with a frenzied schedule.
Take time daily to reflect on what’s really important to you. Feed your spirit by listening to music that moves your heart. Take walks. Exercise your body. Meditate in silence. Consider the “big picture.” Think about what you care about the most and what makes your life meaningful. Envision a greater future. Dream! Create! Continue Reading →
You are a powerful being living in a universe that is receptive to your individuality. What you think matters. Your ideas are important. Your perspective is invaluable. Your thought is creative.
The words you choose to speak either lift you up or put you down – but always the choice is yours! Life is, quite literally, what you make of it.
Your power is internal. Continue Reading →
“From within or from behind, a light shines through us upon things and makes us aware that we are nothing, but the light is all.” ~ Ralp Waldo Emerson, The Oversoul
What you have within you is always greater than anything going on around you. What you have within you has the power to overcome any obstacle and heal any disease. You were created as an inlet and an outlet for Spirit’s expression. You were designed as an opportunity for good. Continue Reading →
As peculiar as this might sound, I was recently inspired by the selection of lettuce at the supermarket: Boston lettuce, red-leaf, green-leaf, romain, butter, field greens, and the plain, but ever-popular, iceburg. And it made me think of the variety of people in my life: white accountants, black doctors, gay therapists, male actors, female lawyers, young people, old people, rich ones and poor ones.
We’ve been told that the key to a healthy diet is to include a variety of food groups. Perhaps the key to a healthy and balanced life comes from including that same dose of variety in our relationships. If this is true, then one would seek to have friends from a variety of different cultural and ethnic groups, as well as religious and political affiliations. For balance, we would seek out relationships with people of varying age groups, race, sexual orientation and social status. Continue Reading →
“The purpose of our lives is to live life. Do not shy away from it, be fearful of it, or deprive yourself of its full enjoyment.” ~ Dr. Ernest Holmes, A New Design for Living
You are alive at this time in history for a reason. The reason is: The world needs what YOU have to contribute to life! God does not make mistakes. It created you at this time because what you have to give is exactly what the world needs right now.
You were created to be you! Through self-expression, you give the gift of your unique talent to life. You are not here to make a withdrawal. You are here to make a deposit. You are not here to get something good from the world; you’re here to give something good to the world. Continue Reading →
If you divide a piece of paper in half and list on one side all of the things you CAN control, you’ll find the list has only two things on it – – – your thoughts and your feelings. You choose how to think and feel. You are in complete control of that, and nothing else!
This is good news because how you choose to think creates your belief system, which causes your actions, which determines what experience returns to you. Therefore, the only thing you have complete control of is the quality of your own life experience. Everything else in life requires your faith and trust.
Control freaks live in fear! They’re afraid life will spin out of control and become unmanageable. They don’t trust that there is a perfect intelligence at the helm of this great universe – unfolding an orderly life. They think they are responsible for making life work. And clearly that kind of thinking is just a bit ego-centric.
Here’s a clue for creating healthy relationships: Make love the ONLY purpose for coming together – not guilt, obligation, shared diseases, or biological similarities. Love is a precious gift from our Creator – and it was intended for people who share an honest appreciation for one another.
Don’t pretend to have affection for people that you really don’t – and for God’s sake, don’t waste your time with them! Don’t go to parties or other social events “just to make an appearance.” Don’t spend time with relatives out of a sense of guilt or obligation. If you think you’re fooling them, you’re really not! The heart always knows who favors us and who doesn’t.