Life is busy. Whether you are starting a business, going to school, dealing with family, friends or loved ones it is important to learn how to prioritize.
Prioritizing can be difficult because it requires us to be aware of what we want out of life. It requires us to be mindful of what is important. And it requires us to say no.
Personally, I really dislike saying no. I want to help everyone. I want to be everywhere. I don’t want to miss out on something that could be a really good opportunity. But in order to be a loving husband, a good friend, or an inspired spiritual leader I HAVE to say no.
Need some no inspiration? Here are a few ways to say no:
- “No, I can’t.”
- “I can’t commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment.”
- “I am not the perfect person to help with this project. But I can recommend someone. Try contacting X.”
- “I can’t this time.”
- “That won’t work for me right now, but if anything changes I will let you know.”
At first, saying no will feel uncomfortable. You may even feel a little guilty for putting yourself first. If you do, try going for a walk or calling a friend after you say no. Sometimes getting air or a fresh perspective is all you need.
Remember, saying no isn’t bad or selfish. Saying no is about you recognizing and respecting your boundaries so you can be the person you want to be.
How will you say no today?
Happy Mindful Monday!
Blessings,
Dr. Chris
Hey, Dr. Chris, Great insight. I am learning to say “No’ with calmness. You know us ‘Great Givers who love to give. I Give to myself, first. Knowing that ‘My no, is a “yes’, for me. Blessings to you. Enjoy the last week of the Lenten season. Namaste